So when someone tells you that their life is no longer their life that its their kids now, what does that say about how happy you are in life, ACTUALLY???

First things first i live my life to the fullest and leave nothin behind so i can say that if i were to die today i would have no regrets up to this point. Everyday i tell someone that my life is no longer my life its my daughters'. Now sit back and break that sentence down and think for more than 2 minutes what that statement is tellin people. That you don't care about anything that happens to you that its all about your child? That nothin that happens to you matters anymore, that you would rather take that pain from your child so they don't have to feel it??? What does that say about you and how you feel about yourself and your well being? How do you look your "STAR PLAYER" in the mirror every morning and know that you don't care about yourself anymore? Don't get me wrong i LOOOOOOVE my daughter and anybody who knows me knows that i would rather take a bullet for her than EVER let her feel the pain and suffering over ANYTHING. Yet how can i live with myself when i know she's un-happy not for what i have provided for her or not provided for her but what i haven't done for myself? How can i live with myself knowing that when she looks me in the eyes alls she sees is hurt and pain in my heart, and let me tell you parents they see it, they see right through you? There comes a time in one's life where you have to be slightly selfish for yourself to help out your childs well-being. It took that same person to help me realize that if you start to lose yourself throughout your childs life they see that and then they start to ? themselves on what did they do to make you so un-happy? As i sit here with tears in my eyes i feel so hurt that i could EVER make my daughter feel that way by what i didn't do for myself and i never thought that there would come a time in MY life that if/when Destiny ever leaves and gets married, God for bid, and starts her own life that that would be MY startin point in life! Yet if that's the case then how would i actually be happy for ME??? As i look towards the future, even though i don't wanna, i start to see that as your child grows and matures you in turn should do the same, grow and mature into the happy person that your kids want you to be just as much as you want for your kids, and in turn it'll be the MOST SPECTACULAR life you could've ever imagined. Now i don't say this with fact at hand i say this as a guideline or rough draft blueprint for other parents ?'ing themselves on that " my life is no longer my life my life is my kids life" i mean HEY i still ? myself everyday but i just take advice from other people and use what i can and when more than a couple people tell you to be happy with yourself and your kids happiness follows i think maybe just maybe there might be some truth behind it... I AIN'T ONE TO GOSSIP SO YOU AIN'T HEARD THAT FROM ME. Until next time have a HAPPY NEW YEAR and lets make it SPECTACULAR!!!!